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Baby’s First Steps September 19, 2008

We make such a big deal out of when a baby takes his first steps. In fact, the age at which your child took his first steps will be ingrained in your Mommy memory forever, just like your child’s birth weight and time. Personally, I think walking is a bit overrated, since you can’t manage to keep them out of trouble ever again once they start, but here are some things you might want to know, anyway.

For some reason, everyone seems to think that a baby should be walking by his first birthday, but the fact is that most babies don’t walk until after this time. There are a few who walk as early as nine months of age, but a great many who don’t take their first steps until fifteen months. And, if your child is a late walker, it has absolutely no bearing on his intelligence.

The age at which a baby walks is often genetic. Walking very early or very late often runs in the family. My husband walked at nine months, and I walked at ten months, so we were unlucky enough to have a daughter who also walked at ten months. She was very petite, so she looked like the world’s tiniest walking human. She also scaled the kitchen counters before she was a year old, so you can see what I mean by “unlucky”.

When your baby walks is also often related to his size. Babies with short legs usually walk sooner than those with long legs (a balance issue) and thinner babies usually walk sooner than their more plump counterparts.

Pushing your baby to walk is not a good idea, but providing him the opportunity to learn is critical. If you force your child to endure daily practice sessions, he may just rebel and refuse to walk for quite a while. On the other hand, if you keep him in swing or playpen all day, he’ll never have the opportunity to try out his skills. Give him some supervised time on the floor, and he’ll figure the rest out with or without your help.

If, by chance, your child is not walking by the age of eighteen months, it is best to have him checked out by a doctor. There is not necessarily anything wrong, but most babies are walking by this age, so have him examined as a precaution. But, don’t be too eager, because once he starts walking, all the rules change. Someone, though I don’t remember who, once said, – “We spend the first two years of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk, and then the next sixteen telling them to sit down and shut up.” It’s so true.

 

 

 

Overcoming Fatigue the Day After September 11, 2008

Those days right after your baby is born can be grueling. You’re likely in some pain from the delivery, and the baby is keeping you up all night. Here are some tips to help you cope in those first few weeks.

Let some things go

Prepare yourself ahead of time to focus on yourself and the baby, and let some things go undone. If you need a clean house in order to relax, have someone come in and clean for you. The last thing you need to do is try to keep everything going, plus care for a new baby.

Rest

Send the visitors away if you need to and take the time to rest. Everybody will tell you “sleep when the baby sleeps”, but for me that was a real problem. No matter how tired I am, I cannot necessarily “sleep on command”. But, I did learn that half an hour on the couch with a magazine helped me feel better, even if I didn’t sleep.

Ask for help

Having some help around the house can be a godsend. My husband took two weeks off work after our daughter was born, and it was wonderful. He totally focused on taking care of the both of us, making me feel much less guilty about getting some rest. But, even if you can’t have someone with you full time, there are certainly people in your life that would be glad to come and spend some time helping you out with the baby and with household chores.

Take a shower and get dressed

Sounds crazy, I know, since all you feel like doing is lying in bed in your bathrobe. But, if you get up in the morning and get dressed for the day, fixing your hair and makeup the way you normally would, it’s likely to leave you feeling more like your old self.

Eat and eat well

You may not really feel like it, but getting back to a healthy diet as soon as you are able will help you regain your strength. Drink plenty of fluids, to reduce swelling and help you get your system functioning normally again.

Finally, slow down and enjoy. The time will come, and very soon, when you won’t believe your baby was ever this small. So, just rest and enjoy this special time, and let your body heal.